My Bad, Y’all

There will be some “bad” words used.

I just watched Ms. Deen ask “beg” forgiveness for her comments made to an African American employee a few years back while planning for her brother’s wedding. I was not feeling it. I was also not surprised that she used such words. She is an older, white Southern woman. Really, a lot more people use “nigger”, “nigga”, “nigguh”, etc. than you may realize.

Then there’s the fact that she is famous, somewhat. She’s a popular TV chef on the Food Network. I’m not a fan of her cooking, it does not look healthy or very much appetizing, but that’s just my humble opinion. Anyways, what I’m trying to get at is that we live in a world that is fairly obsessed with those in the public eye. Some of us feel that we own celebrities, that they owe us whenever they do something we may not approve of. Sometimes, we forgive them. Other times, we ridicule them further, even shun them.

Paula was… picked at quite a bit. #PaulasBestDishes was the top trending topic in the U.S. this past Wednesday, and boy, some made me laugh until I teared up, I’m not going to lie. I was not necessarily laughing at her, but I was thinking that in some way she had brought this on herself. Her forgiveness video was choppy, with flashes of white, her facial expressions were distracting, to me at least. If she really was sorry, it just did not come through.

I recall someone I used to follow on Twitter say that racism is dead, and that we should be worrying more about classism. I thought to myself, this person is wrong. While classism may seem more prevelant, racism is not going away, and never will. We as the human race may grow more tolerant, but there will always be some prejudice deep down inside every single being. There is not one person alive without any form of dislike, hate, dread, etc. We are not perfect, y’all.

Paula Deen has angered a lot of people, especially those who weren’t so familiar with her before this lawsuit came to light. As I read tweets and laugh, shake my head and frown, I know to many of those offended that this is too little, maybe on time but all the same too late.

I’m going to end on this note. It’s interesting how we clutch to the really ugly stuff of a person, celebrity or otherwise. When they try to (or try to appear to) rectify their displeasing mistakes, it may not be easy to win people back. I guess we’ll just have to wait and see how this plays out. Frankly, I’m fairly over it, and this will not be the last time someone we may invite into our lives via cable may rub us the way.